Respect for All is our system-wide response to the bullying and harassment. We are committed to keeping our schools safe, supportive, and free from discrimination.
What You Can Do About Bullying…
…If Your Child is the Target
- Report the incident to your school's Respect for All (RFA) liaison(s) and/or school administration.
- Ask for the incident number from school administration for follow up. This is also known as Online Occurrence Reporting System (OORS) number.
- The school will investigate and must tell the parent or guardian of the target what they find. If needed, the child may be referred for support services.
- If the investigation finds that a student—or students—have been bullying or harassing your child, the school will follow the process described in the Discipline Code.
You can also report bullying concerns by:
You can learn more about the procedures for filing complaints of bullying or harassment and the DOE policy in Chancellor’s Regulation A-832.
You may seek help from Escalation Staff to address a current bullying-related concern if:
- You believe school staff retaliated against you or your child for making a bullying complaint, and you reported another bullying complaint following the alleged retaliation; or
- Your child has been the victim of two or more substantiated bullying incidents in the same school year.
Please complete this form below and email it to the Family Support Coordinator for the superintendent that oversees your school:
The list of superintendents and their Family Support Coordinators can be found on the Superintendents page of the DOE website. You can also find your Family Support Coordinator on your school’s webpage, which can be located with the Find A School tool.
...If Your Child is the Bully
Involve your child in making amends or repairing the situation. The goal is to help them see how their actions affect others. For example, your child can:
- Write a letter apologizing to the student who was bullied.
- Do a good deed for the person who was bullied or for others in your community.
- Clean up, repair, or pay for any property they damaged.
- Speak with their school counselor or administrator.
Work with your child’s school if you think additional referrals or resources are needed.
Sometimes children bully to fit in. Your child can benefit from participating in positive activities. Involvement in sports and clubs can enable him/her to take leadership roles and make friends without feeling the need to bully.
Other times kids act out because something else—issues at home, abuse, stress—is going on in their lives. They also may have been bullied. These kids may be in need of additional support, such as mental health services.
- Kognito - provides an online training, "Respect for All, Building Respect: RFTA Conversation Skills"
- PACER Center - provides innovative resources for students, parents, educators, and others, and recognizes bullying as a serious community issue that impacts education, physical and emotional health, and the safety and well-being of students.
- NYC Teen - Learn about dealing with peer pressure, bullying and dating violence as well as depression, and anger.
- StopBullying.gov - provides information from various government agencies on
- Public Broadcasting System (PBS)
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Ability Path: Support for Parents of Children with Special Needs
Bridging Refugee Youth and Children’s Services
Race or Religion
- Challenging Biased Language: Strategies and resources for everyone to help challenge bigoted and offensive remarks to ensure dignity and respect for all people.
- Coalition for Asian American Children and Families (CACF): Educate Asian Pacific American parents in their preferred languages on their rights, responsibilities, and opportunities to attain services within the school system.
- Muslim Community Network Develops the capacity of Muslim New Yorkers and their allies to fully participate in the social and political landscape of New York City.
- Sikh Coalition A: community-based organization that works towards the realization of civil and human rights for all people.
- Teaching Tolerance: Offers webinars with guidance and great ideas, from their highly experienced teaching and learning specialists and from other educators in the Teaching Tolerance community.
- Unity Productions Foundation: UPF can work with Islamic centers, Mosques, and even educational institutions to host screenings and events dedicated to fighting Islamophobia.
Sexual Orientation or Gender
This site offers girls reliable, useful information on health and well-being. We cover hundreds of topics, from getting your period to stopping bullies, and from getting fit to preventing sexually transmitted infections. We make our pages clear and fun, and we make sure to answer key questions girls ask. Girlshealth.gov is committed to empowering girls to create strong, positive relationships and happy, healthy futures.
Hetrick Martin Institute
Hetrick-Martin creates safe and supportive environments for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth between the ages of 13 and 24 and their families.
CAMBA takes a comprehensive approach to helping individuals, families and communities thrive, offering integrated programs.
Friends and Families of Lesbians and Gays of NYC
PFLAG NYC’s mission is to create a better future for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) youth and adults through a partnership of parents, allies, and LGBT people.
The Trevor Project
The Trevor Project offers support to LGBTQ students.
- The Trevor Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 866-488-7386 is free and available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Cyberbullying Research Center
Resources for LGBT Students and their Friends:
New York City Resource Guide for Teenage Victims of Family Domestic Violence and Dating Violence, compiled by the NYC Mayor’s Office to Combat Domestic Violence, is an excellent resource for students that includes hotline numbers and an index of organizations by borough.